You can't win an argument. You can't because if you lose it, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it. Why? Well, suppose you triumph over the other man and shoot his argument full of holes and prove that he is non compos mentis. Then what? You will feel fine. But what about him? You have made him feel inferior. You have hurt his pride. He will resent your triumph. And - A man convinced against his will Is of the same opinion still.

Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends & Influence People

In the connections that fulfill us we discover how utterly open our hearts can be; in those that disappoint us we find out how tenderly vulnerable our hearts can become. In any case, it is ultimately between one heart and another that the manna of human wholeness is exchanged, bestowed, and blessed. How fortunate we humans are that love, just love, turns out to be the only dawn it takes to dispel our isolation.

David Richo, The Five Things We Cannot Change: And the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them

The victim mentality is totally disempowering. It works on the assumption that others are more capable of directing your life than you are. Such a disabling conclusion forces you to remain passive, convinced that you're defeated before you begin, blocking your positive energy and making it impossible to get anything wonderful back. Your insistence that you have been - or are being - victimized will only bring more evidence of that from the Universe.

Sandra Anne Taylor, Secrets of Attraction: The Universal Laws of Love, Sex and Romance

Anything that you resent and strongly react to in another is also in you. But it is no more than a form of ego, and as such, it is completely impersonal. It has nothing to do with who that person is, nor has it anything to do with who you are. Only if you mistake it for who you are can observing it within you be threatening to your sense of self.

Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose